gratitude-a-thon day 3009: puppy love

Daisy turns two today! Time has flown, and she’s no longer a puppy, and all the other cliche things we say as we watch our animals and kids grow up at the speed of sound. But for me this birthday is all about the fact that my little ride or die is alive and well. Almost 14 weeks ago, Daisy and I were hit by a car. She broke one hip, dislocated the other and had fractures on her pelvis. She had surgery on both hips and was in the hospital for three days, before coming home to doggy “bed rest,” which is no stairs, no jumping, no playing with dogs and no fun.

While I was laying in the hallway of the ER on a stretcher waiting to find out the results of my x-rays and CAT scan on the day of the accident, I had thought Daisy was miraculously fine. But then later in the afternoon, I was told she wasn’t. I wailed right there in the hospital like I’d been informed everybody I loved in the world had just been killed. My head immediately ran toward the worst case scenarios. Would she lose her leg, or be paralyzed? Would she make it through surgery at all? My body was in pain, and my brain was concussed and my spirit was shaken and stirred like the perfect martini, but what I was most upset about, most consumed with, was whether or not my dog would be ok.

For the first 10 days she lay on my lap, or snuggled up with my husband, or burrowed into my sister, as close to us as she could get her little body, and just sleep. I would stare at her three inch scars and her tiny little legs, wondering how her delicate body had met with a Porsche SUV and won.

She wasn’t allowed to do anything, except go outside (by being carried–in fact my husband had to carry her up and down the stairs for three months) to go to the bathroom. She took medication for eight weeks, swallowing one pill down that we hid in a treat and letting us squirt the other into her mouth. She couldn’t play fetch with the entirety of her toy basket–first one toy, then another– as she energetically does at least three times a day. In fact, she wasn’t allowed to participate in any of her usual shenanigans at all.

At night she slept with us, on a leash tethered to my arm, in case she tried to jump off the bed, which could be doom for her healing hips (she never did). She never whined, never barked, never acted out. She never even had any kind of “accident” in the house, either. And anytime someone came over to bring food, or flowers, or to visit, she bore into their laps like she’d known them since she was born and they were her best friends.

As it turned out, she was much more accommodating with her injuries and limitations than I was with mine. And while her remarkable personality shone through from day one, slowly, her sparkly and adorable spirit came back in full. Walking increased by five minute intervals each week. We began to let her roam around the first floor, and even play a limited version of fetch.

The day we met Daisy, a three month old ball of red fur, we marvelled at her temperament–she was immediately easy going and loving. But to watch her face pain, meds, and a boring daily schedule, and STILL maintain her winning personality, just proved she was the kind of dog you’d make if you could create one for yourself.

I am a dog person. I cried every single day for two straight weeks when we had to let my 14 year old dog Riley go. And while I didn’t think any dog could replace Riley, (and Daisy hasn’t) I missed the hilarity and love of dog life–we all did. And so we took a chance and got another dog. And we did it on the internet! It was a risky move, but I feel like I won every state lottery in the country, (plus all the scratch tickets), because she is one of the best parts of my life.

What I have learned over the years is that the love a dog can give is deep, transformative and astonishing.

The experience of being hit by a car is miserable, and while I am healing, I will have to be in physical therapy for at least six more months, and in the end may still have to have knee surgery. I’ll never get the moment of impact out of my head. And when Daisy has arthritis when she’s older, as the doctor’s have told us her surgery would cause, I will do everything in my power to make sure she can continue to live her best life.

While the back of her body was shaved, the front of her was shaggy. We couldn’t give her a bath, or have her groomed for a full three months.
Daisy’s first day back at the park. No other dogs were there that day, but she didn’t care, because she could run!

Daisy and I didn’t make it across the street that day, but we did make it to her second birthday, and back to the dog park, and even back to crossing the street again (although I do look like Linda Blair in The Exorcist when I cross, because I look both ways so many times).

And for that, there is no way to measure the amount of gratitude I have.

gratitude-a-thon day 2036: riley is 10. you should get a dog.

 

Today my dog is 10. I talked to him about this and I tried not to, but I cried.

I cried because I can’t actually imagine my life without this dog and I know he won’t likely live as long as I will. I nuzzled him and told him how darn much I loved him and that I hoped he’d had a good life so far. He didn’t answer, but he did purr. He purrs like a cat to tell me when he’s particularly happy. I always think his purring is pre-verbal and he will talk some one of these days.

This is the thing about Riley and me: I talk and talk to him, but he never talks back. He has particular barks. He has an “I need water bark,” an I have to pee, stat,” bark, “I’m about to poop on the rug” bark, a “play with me,” an “I’m starving,” and a “the mailman’s here and I’m going to tear him from limb to limb if he gets near the front door” bark. But he never speaks to me, and yet I totally understand him. Sometimes better than people who speak English to me. I don’t know, but that’s how it is. And this is why I love him so much and also because he’s really funny and well, I love funny.

I am so grateful that 10 years ago a dad in Coolidge Corner was allergic to a little puppy he flew in for his family from a breeder in Minneapolis. Turned out that Riley was more Cavalier King Charles Spaniel than Bichon, so his hypoallergenic-ness was a no-go. But that’s how we found our boy. It was meant to be. Because I can tell you, we were made for each other. If you don’t have a dog, I can’t recommend it enough. They make you a better person, and they are full of absolutely pure love.

 

 

 

 

 

gratitude-a-thon day 358: right in your own backyard: spontaneous sunday

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If Riley could talk (and I’m sure he will very soon), he would have said, “This is fucking great. How come we’ve never been HERE before?” He loved this walk. Me too.

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Lake Waban. This place is special

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This was a serious Dr. Seuss moment. Did he go to Wellesly?

Don’t you love when you wake up on a Sunday without plans and then one magically materializes, and it winds up being complete perfection? Like if you tried to plan it, it never would have come off right, but because it just happened, it was exactly right in every way. Enter Facebook, and a blog post on Rhode Island, and my old roommate Leah, who lives six minutes from me, and who I do a lot of technological staying in touch with, but not real life seeing, and ba da boom, a Sunday off-the-leash dog walk around Lake Waban on Wellesley’s campus, where I had never been before, and where nature does its thing in the best possible way.

Leah has great energy, and she’s smart and funny, and she has Stanley, her fearless five pound dog, who thinks he’s part of Hell’s Angels. After our walk, she took me to Volante Farm, where  I’d never been, and we looked at flowers and plants and bought some yummy stuff to eat, and then we stared at the lines of summer flowers being grown, which I’d only ever seen in bouquets at the farmer’s market, and which I couldn’t take my eyes off of. We then lounged in her backyard, where our dogs pranced around, and we gabbed and ate until our tongues were tired. Spontaneous Sunday. Absolute A++++.

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Volante Farms in Needham is new to me. I can’t wait to go back. This is the tiniest bit of the enless row of flowers. It went on forever (ok, not really, but sort of).

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The adorable Leah and her fearless and crazy cute guy Stanley.

gratitude-a-thon day 136: Nena the pit bull (and adoptive mommy)

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Ok, if you know me for five minutes, you know I am a dog person. Maybe more than a dog person, and more like a person totally- and-completely-OBSESSED-with-dogs person. After having dogs that weren’t properly trained, and which I had little interest in when I was growing up, I was someone who thought dog people were weird and puppies were overrated. Until. Until I agreed to let my kids have one five years ago. And through a series of kismet circumstances, got our boy Riley, MY MOST FAVORITE PERSON.

So, when I saw this unbearably sweet video, I couldn’t keep it to myself. This dog is mommying a whole litter of dogs that aren’t hers. Gives the expression “good dog,” a whole new meaning. Oh, the adorableness! Even if you don’t like dogs, you can see the humanity here, can’t you?

Truth is, dogs just get life in a way that we people struggle to. They really understand  the important stuff–walking, running, playing, eating, sleeping, cuddling. Their total devotion to their owners is incomparable. If only my kids liked me as much as my dog does. Their unconditional ability to love, perfect. Grateful for starting my day with Nena the pitbull and her adopted brood. Woof!