You’re 21. You can now drink legally, (as opposed to illegally). No more fake I.D.’s. You can use your own name! So much less to have to remember. You can concentrate on your classes now!
But really, 21 is a milestone. You’re now considered an adult. But I will always consider you a baby. My baby, no matter how old you get. It’s a mom thing.
By now you know the story of how much we wanted you, how long we waited and how hard we worked to have you (some of it was really fun, some of it was really not),
The thing is, you were worth every moment. Because what you’ve brought into my life has been so illuminating, so shockingly simple, and yet so Rubik’s Cube complex. The love is bigger than any dimensional categorization. It’s deeper and richer than any feeling before it or after it. The experience of having children, I hope you’ll one day see, is like asking yourself to give over everything. Everything you have to give, to feel, to teach. It is at once a profound mystery, and a mystical journey that results in the most electrifying, all-encompassing kind of love.
You have always had a special spark. A charisma that charms, an emotional depth that guides, and a sweetness that is pure and authentic. I could never imagine having a son, a boy, since I grew up with sisters, but now I can’t imagine what my life would be like, had I not had you. It would be so much less.
Have I ever mentioned how proud I am of all that you are? I am. I would think you were amazing, even if you weren’t my kid.
My hopes and dreams for you are simple:
- Do your best, that’s all you can do. You’ll find that even when you fail, giving your everything always results in an overall happiness.
- Be kind and always try and put yourself in other people’s sneakers. Compassion makes the world go round.
- Give love, openly and freely. Create relationships of all kinds; they will nurture you and sustain you.
- Be real. Be honest. Be who you are deep in your gut.
- Be a world citizen. Think of the bigger picture. Do what you can to participate, to respect others and the planet. VOLUNTEER. Find what you love, and give your time.
- Eat good food.
- Fail. It’s the only way to learn. Failing is one of the crooked steps to succeeding.
- Be open to everything and everyone. Don’t be afraid. Take risks. Go to bed at night satisfied you’ve taken a gigantic bite out of the world like you’d take a big bite out of a juicy peach.
I love you Mr. 21. So much. Too much for the alphabet. I need more letters.
Happy birthday, Jakey.