gratitude-a-thon day 2067:friends (not the tv show)

There is family. And then there are friends. Family is sort of stuck with you. Like you or not, we band together to help one another, blood coursing through our veins says it’s our duty, plus there are all those shared experiences.(Who else really knows how cuckoo crazy pants your dad was?)

But friends. They are the chosen. Before they become one of your people, they’re complete strangers. And then story by story, one movie/walk/late afternoon coffee/ glass of wine, or two, or three/one thoughtful phone call when the sky is falling/one workout that turns into lunch/one tv show you both adore, and suddenly you have found someone who is like your leg, only without a drop of cellulite.

In the department of gratitude, there is almost nothing (except maybe family and oh, my dog) that I am more grateful for than my friends. Along with potato chips, they are positively what gets me through this whack-a-doodle world.

gratitude-a-thon day 899: Dan (5) O.


Dear Dan (5) O.,


I can’t decide whether you turning 50 makes me feel older, or younger. But it doesn’t matter, we’re finally in the same decade again!

I’m writing this on the gratitude-a-thon on account of how super, major grateful I am for our friendship. (It’s nice when your girlfriend comes with a guy who can also be your girlfriend!)

Here are the ten things I like best about you:

  1. You’re a great listener. You always make me feel heard and seen.
  2. You make a mean cocktail and a perfect cup of coffee.
  3. You make people feel comfortable. Whether it’s at your house entertaining, or in a social setting, your sweet manner makes people feel good.
  4. You’re funny (and you know how I love funny).
  5. You’re thoughtful and take time to get to know what would really mean something to someone.
  6. You always know the best binge-worthy tv shows that even I don’t know.
  7. You’re techno-savvy.
  8. I love your effort to be mindful and meditate. (We share this ongoing, but worthy struggle.)
  9. You love your dog, like I love my dog.
  10. You’re adorable.

We’ve been friends a long time, and I hope you know that I consider you one of the people who understands me best. I love you for that.

So gosh darn many memories we’ve art directed over the past 14 years. Thanks for every one of them. And happy birthday.

Love you,

The other Toni