Sometimes shit gets real. Things happen and you see through the mayhem.
When you’re an adult, it’s so easy to live life by skimming the surface. You can punch your time card, and call it a day. There is no committee that makes you give more than your 40 hours. Unlike toddlerhood, when you have your parents and a whole host of other adults looking out for your little behind, when you’re a grown-up, nobody can really force you to right yourself, when you veer off course. It’s all yours, baby.
Put your glasses on. Make the day count. Get off the fucking couch.
Would you marry an avocado if you could? I would possibly trade my children, no, but maybe the dog, no definitely not the dog, ok, my car, for the creamy taste of a perfectly ripened avocado. Too often though, I am faced with the first world problem of an artistic hill of rock hard options. I stand there, in the market, squeezing every green oval, like a pervert copping a feel. There are lots of times when I can’t find one that’s ripe, and my taste buds start whining, and carrying on like a two year old, until I distract them with the cheese department.
Anyway, looky here, I haven’t tried this yet, but what if it works? Kinda made my day. Say it with me: GUACAMOLE!
I have a privacy issue. Which is to say, I am not at all private.
Here’s how I see it. When I share the good, the bad, and the ugly, whether it’s on this blog, or social media, or in a conversation, I’m being a real person, with cellulite, and bad moods, and a difficult dad, and parenting struggles, and a mouth a sailor would be embarrassed by. In other words, imperfect, but a flesh and blood person.
Some people think they open themselves up on social media by giving a blow-by-blow of their days—“And then I got a parking ticket while I was at the dentist having my lower left molar filled.” But this isn’t sharing, so much as it is a calendar of events.
See, I am interested in real people–in what they do when they fail, in how they get up and at it. I’m interested in hearing about the ugly (but honest) underbelly of a person, in addition to their fabulosity.
Social media is creating a population of one dimensional clones.
I am grateful I’m ok enough to be out there with my imperfections. The real upside is that it allows others to share who they are and what they think. That seems a really good thing to me.
When you hear the word gratitude, certain things come to mind. Like for instance, Thanksgiving (particularly the mashed potatoes or stuffing, oh sorry, that’s just me), or a cheesy quote your Aunt put on Facebook, or a church sermon (with all due respect).
But here are five things you might not have considered when you hear the G-word.
- Gratitude does not have to be loud. It can be 100% internal. You do not have to shout about what you’re feeling grateful for. It’s nice to spread the word, but by all means, practicing gratitude without talking about it, is still practicing gratitude.
- Speaking of practice, gratitude is like doing push-ups. The first time you do them, you’re all like, “this shit is too hard.” But the more you practice gratitude, the more easily it becomes part of your routine, and the better your life will become. And by the way, I’m not saying you’re going to wake up tall and blonde (unless you are tall and blonde), I’m just saying, that the act of noticing what you have is a life-enriching act.
- Gratitude is contagious. Like a case of the chickenpox, when you start living with an eye out for gratitude, those around you start to do it, too.
- Gratitude loves the little things. There is not one thing on this green earth that can’t be cause for a minor celebration. The wonder of this whole party has gratitude written all over it.
- Teaching kids about gratitude is a powerful way to start changing the world. When you are focusing on what it is you have, and doing the happy dance in honor of it, you aren’t wasting energy on “wanting.” You’re creating good internal feelings, instead of negative ones. Bring that into the world, and see how it effects people. Chain reaction, baby.
Because it’s Monday. Because it’s dancing. Because it’s dogs. Riley: take notice!
A sunny Sunday morning is so good. The lack of unnatural sound makes way for stuff, like birds, and the eery beauty of quiet. It’s easier on a Sunday morning to just be, to allow the peace and freedom of a non-work day to penetrate the up and at ’em stress hormone.
Why thank you Sunday. I’m eating you like a piece of Vineyard pie.
I am all about the sun. But sometimes I like rain. It’s not the wet that I like, because I find that annoying. It’s the smell.
Rain smells like the beach to me, like so many days on the Cape with my mom, when I’d blame her for the weather, but secretly enjoy the raucous waves and the smell of the sea. It brings me to the Vineyard when the sky was emptying buckets down, and the kids were complaining of boredom, and the days seemed endless, but the air smelled like a perfume I wish existed.
Today smells like that. Like so many moments that have already been, and the ocean, and the beauty of things that are simple.